I began freelancing for Molton Brown USA on August of 2015. At first, I was going to freelance for just a month. But here I am one year and seven months later and still standing strong! Throughout my time with the company, I have gone through many hardships balancing work and motherhood. But I am still alive and here to tell you four of my greatest hardships and how I have been able to manage.
- When the kids are sick.
My Story: When I began freelancing, my children were 23 months and 6 months. On the day prior to my first day of work, I had to take them to their doctor due to a cough that they both had. The doctor prescribed medicine through a nebulizer every 4 hours. Every 4 hours. I was starting a new gig the very next day and now I had to hold a nebulizer in front of their little faces every four hours!
Survival Tip: Support from family and friends. We had a very close family friend staying with us at the time and she had no problem with making sure my children took their medication on time. I am also very close to my mother and she helped as well during those first days of work. If you live far away from your family, try to find a support group. It’s important to have a few people near you who you trust with your children.
2. Me time.
My Story: My entire morning is spent getting my family ready for the day. When every one arrives to their destination, the next 7 hours of my day belong to Molton Brown. When I leave, I spend an hour on the subway only to get home and spend time with the kids, go through their bedtime routine and put them to bed. At first, I could not find a balance. By the time the kids were in bed I was so exhausted that I went to sleep and did everything all over again the very next day.
Survival tip: Make a schedule. Schedules don’t work for every body but it has definitely worked for me! Every thing I do throughout the day is based on a schedule I have created in my mind. The most important part of the schedule is bed time. We have to be going through our bed time routine by 9pm. By 10pm the kids are in bed (if there are no protests). So now I have from 10pm to around midnight to have me time. Yay!
3. Worry about taking so much time off.
My story: Winter just passed and we went through the sniffles a lot! It felt like my little ones were always sick and I had to constantly call out. I felt like such an inconvenience every time I had to call out or leave early.
Survival Tip: Don’t stress it. It’s that simple. As mothers, our first priority is our family and children. If they need us, we need to be there. I have learned that most employers are very understanding as well (thankfully mine is!). In the end, there are things that are out of our control and instead of wasting negative energy on worrying, turn it into positive and loving energy and take great care of your little one like I am sure you already are.
4. “The Mom Guilt”
My Story: Call me old fashioned, but I love taking care of my family. It makes my heart happy to make sure that my family has a home where they have healthy meals and warm hugs all day. But as a working mom, thats not happening all day. Most days, my husband and I eat out and the children eat leftovers. It is nearly impossible to always keep the house clean and our bedrooms nice and tidy.
Survival tip: You are doing the best you can. Mom guilt is real and so many mothers go through it. But the reality is that you are doing the absolute best that you can. Sometimes, your family might not see it but keep reminding yourself that you are trying your best. Try to hug your little ones as often as you can. Your children won’t remember the number of times you had to leave them to go to work, but they will remember all those wonderful hugs you gave them.
You are valuable, you are strong, you rock mama. ❤
a loving mama