You’re so amazing. No, I mean it. Sure there are times that you make me question my sanity but you really are amazing. Truly.
However, there are just a few things I wish someone would’ve told me prior to entering this beautiful journey.
Okay, maybe not just a few… there are a lot of things I wish I knew but I will just name ten so I don’t bore anyone reading this.
Shall we begin?
- Oh, sleep, where have you gone?! This is cliche, I know. But seriously! I miss sleeping. My boys usually sleep through the night now but it’s like every other night that they squeeze their little bodies into my bed and put their foot on my face as I try to sleep. How am I suppose to rest like that?
- Buh-bye freedom. My husband and I wanted to go out on a date a couple of nights ago and I texted my mom to see if she could babysit. Turns out the old lady (she’s not really old) was going out partying with my father and we couldn’t go on date night. The night actually ended with my three year old throwing up all over me. A classic.
- Your breast have a mind of their own. I had no idea how pregnancy + postpartum affected our breasts! The day after having my first son, my breasts grew three times it’s size and then shrunk to an A cup (I was a C cup before kids). I made sure for my next pregnancy that I purchased bras two times bigger than what my size was. That colostrum is no joke!
- People don’t mind their own business. Holy cow. I didn’t know how many people would try to tell me what to do! I understood why people would constantly tell me pizza isn’t a good meal for a growing baby (but its soooo goooood), but relatives, friends, even strangers began telling me what to do and how to do it. I love good advice, don’t get me wrong! But when people are constantly shoving their opinion down your throat, it can get a bit overwhelming.
- You have a wonderful husband. I loved him before (obviously) but watching him cry the moment our first little bundle of joy was born made me realize the heart this man has. He is such a wonderful father and husband ❤
- Breastfeeding is not easy. I repeat, breastfeeding is not easy. It may look beautiful on those lovely pictures we see online or those lovely pamphlets our doctors hand us. But it is not easy! It’s exhausting and painful and not every mother will be able to successfully breastfeed her baby… AND THATS OKAY!
- The hormones. I would laugh at women who claimed they “couldn’t stand” someone during pregnancy. Until I couldn’t stand my lovely, innocent father during my pregnancy. I couldn’t listen to the mans voice! I felt horrible but I seriously could not be around my father. The hormones are real (get it? Like the struggle is real.. baha).
- Your body won’t be the same. I somehow lived in this fantasy world where I thought my body would look exactly the same after giving birth. I am very grateful that I was able to remain thin but my body is in no way the same as before I had kids. At first, I cried. But then I thought to myself, this wonderful miracle was created inside of your body! How amazing is that?!
- You’ve never experienced love like this before. I had no idea the amount of love I was going to have for my children. If I tried to put it into words, it wouldn’t meet the reality of how deep the love a mother has for her children really is. I have never loved someone so much and the more children I have, the more my heart seems to grow.
- God will never leave you. I am a firm believer that He has been with me and will continue to be with my family and I throughout our lives. Yes, I was the crazy lady screaming Bible verses throughout my contractions 🙂
Motherhood is quite the journey, ain’t it?
But despite how exhausting it may be, I am enjoying every single second of it ❤
Here are some pictures straight out of my phone that show a tiny glimpse of what motherhood has been like for me:
a loving mama