I would like to start off by saying that I am very grateful for the job I have. The flexibility is definitely a perk that you can’t just find anywhere and I am very grateful for the people I have been able to meet.
Recently, I got offered more hours at work and I said yes in a heartbeat because I could really use the extra money. The extra hours include traveling– which I love. However, after the first few days of traveling across the city, I noticed a change in the way I handled things at home.
As I looked at the mess of laundry and stacked up mail that haven’t gone through, I thought it would be a good idea to share my version of pros and cons of being a working mother.
I was also a stay at home mom two years ago so I have gotten the best of both worlds.
So here goes 🙂
- You bring home some bacon. Not literally, of course. I don’t even like bacon (gasp!). But yes, you bring home money as well. Which, in my case, gives me a sense of independence. When I was a stay at home mom, I was very careful when spending money as I did not want my ex husband to feel that I did not value his hard work.
- Time with other adults. After being around children all day, it is wonderful to spend time with other adults. Your conversations aren’t about picking up your toys or what color crayons will we be using.
- Me time. I consider time at work me time. It’s time that I am kid free and I do not have to force anyone to share anything.
- Dressing up. I love dressing up. Sometimes I even feel like I overdue it. But lets face it, when I’m not at work, I’m wearing pjs all day.
- You get to miss your children. I love my precious little ones but let’s face it, they can drive me nuts at times. But as nuts as they drive me, I spend 90% of my time away from them thinking about when I get home to their smiling faces. And that makes my time with them so much more valuable.
- You get home tired but you can’t relax. When I was a stay at home mom I would give my ex husband some space to relax once he got home. The house was clean, dinner was made and all was well in the world. But now that we are both working, we both get home wanting to relax but in reality none of us can. Which brings me to con #2…
- Stress. Since you can’t relax and you’re tired, it’s very easy for you to get stressed/overwhelmed. I have cried of how overwhelmed I have gotten getting home and really wanting a couple of minutes to put my feet up but not getting it.
- More expenses. More money is coming in but you’d be spending more money as well. Prior to me working I did not have to spend on transportation, day care and lunch. I sometimes (most of the time) do not have time to make my lunch so I end up buying food. It is important to calculate and see if the money you’d be spending on these things would actually be worth working.
- Chores become a lot worse. When staying at home, it’s easy to divide chores throughout the week. Monday deep clean, Tuesday laundry, Wednesday bathroom, etc. But having limited days at home, I have to do everything in one day so that my next day off I can spend quality time with the boys.
- Less time with children. I saved this one for last because this is the con that I dislike the most. I am very picky with the way I treat my children and want them to be treated. I like their food a certain way, their play time a certain way, even their time outs a certain way. I would love to be the one being there for them every day and giving them the loving care they deserve. And less time with our children could mean missing out on first words or first steps which can really hurt.
There are a lot more pros and cons for being a working mother but I don’t want to make this post too long. So I will probably do a part two in the future 🙂
Whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom, you’re a superhero because none are easy ❤
The things we do for our little humans 😀
Thank you for reading!
a loving mama